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Regarding Good Conduct to Ones Parents


Chapter 1: The saying of Allaah the Exalted, “and we have enjoined upon man to be good to his parents”

1/1 From Abu Umru ash-Shaibaanee who said, “The owner of this house narrated to us,” and he indicated with his hand to the house of Abdullaah, that, “I asked the Prophet (SAW), ‘which action is the most beloved to Allaah?’ He said, ‘Prayer at it’s correct time’. I said, ‘then which action? ‘He said, ‘birr (good treatment, kindness) to the parents.’ I said, ‘then which?’ He said ‘Jihaad in the way of Allaah’

Abdullaah said, “He told me these, and if I had asked further, he would have told me.” Saheeh – Irwaa (1197)

2/2 From Abdullaah bin Umar who said, “The Lord is pleased when the parents are pleased, and is Angry when the parents are angry.” Hasan as mawqoof, saheeh as marfoo’ as-Saheehah 515

Chapter 2: Birr to the Mother
3/3 From Bahz bin Hakeem from his father from his grandfather who said, “I said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah who is most deserving of my birr?’ He said, ‘your mother.’ I said, ‘who is most deserving of my birr?’ He said, ‘your mother.’ I said, ‘who is most deserving of my birr?’ He said, ‘your mother.’ I said, ‘who is most deserving of my birr?’ He said, ‘your father, then your closest relation, then your closest relation.'” Hasan – Irwaa (2232,829)

4/4 From Ibn Abbas, “That a man came to him and said, ‘I proposed to a woman and I yearned that she marry me. Then someone else proposed to her and she desired to marry him. Then I seduced her, then killed her, so is there repentance for me?’ He said, ‘Is your mother alive?’ He replied, ‘No.’ So Ibn Abbas said, ‘Repent to Allaah Azza wa Jall and seek to get close to Him as much as you can.”

(Ataa bin Yaaser) said, “so I went to Ibn Abbaas and asked him, ‘Why did you ask if his Mother was alive?’ He said, ‘indeed I do not know an action which can get one closer to Allaah then birr to the mother'” Saheeh – as-Saheehah (2799)

Chapter 3: Birr to the father
5/5 From Abu Hurayra who said, “It was said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah (SAW), who is most deserving of my birr?’ He replied, ‘your mother’. He said, ‘then who?’ He replied, ‘your mother.’ He said, ‘then who?’ He said, ‘your mother.’ He said, ‘then who?’ He replied, ‘your father'” Saheeh, al-Irwaa (837), ad-Da’eefah (under no 4992)

Chapter 4: Gentle words to the parents
6/8 from Taysala bin Mayyaas who said, “I was with the Najadaat (a group of the Hururiyyah) and I committed a sin which I regarded to be Major, so I mentioned this to Ibn Umar. He said, ‘what sin is it?’ I said, ‘this and this.’ He said, ‘this is not from the Major sins, the major sins are nine: “Associating partners with Allaah, killing a soul, fleeing from the advancing army, to accuse a chaste woman, Eating Ribaa, Eating the property of an orphan, to apostasize in the mosque, the one who ridicules/derides others, and making the parents cry due to disobedience to them.”

Ibn Umar said to me, ‘Do you fear the fire and wish to enter the Paradise?’ I said, ‘of course, by Allaah!’ He said, ‘are your parents alive?’ I said, ‘I have a mother.’ He said, ‘then by Allaah! If you were to speak gently to her and feed her, you would certainly enter paradise, as long as you stay away from the Major sins.'” Saheeh, as-Saheehah (2898)

7/9 From Urwa who said about the verse, “And lower for them the wings of humility out of mercy” – ‘Do not prevent them from anything that they love.’ Saheeh Isnaad

Chapter 5: Repaying the Parents
8/10 From Abu Hurayra from the Prophet (SAW) that he said, “The son can never repay his parent. Except that he finds him a slave, then buys him and sets him free.” Saheeh, Irwaa (1747)

9/11 From Abu Buraidah that he was with Ibn Umar and a Yemeni man was making tawaaf of the House carrying his mother on his back saying, “I am her humble camel where her camel would have gotten frightened I will not”

Then he said, ‘O Ibn Umar! Do you think that I have repaid her?’ He said, ‘no, not even a for a single moan that escaped her during child birth.’

Then Ibn Umar made tawaaf of the house, then came to the Station (of Abraham) and prayed two rak’ahs. Then he said, ‘O ibn Abu Musa! Indeed every two rak’ahs expiate what came before them.’ Saheeh Isnaad

10/13 From Abdullaah bin Umar who said, ” A man came to the Prophet (SAW) to give him the bay’ah for hijrah, and he left his parents crying. So the Prophet said, ‘return to your parents and make them laugh as you have made them cry'” Saheeh, at-Ta’leeq ar-Ragheeb (3/213)

Chapter 6: Disobedience to parents
12/15 From Abu Bakra who said, “The Messenger of Allaah (SAW) said, ‘shall I not inform you of the greatest of the major sins?’ [three times] They said, ‘of course O Messenger of Allaah!’ He said, ‘Associating partners with Allaah, Disobedience to the parents – then he sat, reclining – and the false statement.’ He kept repeating them until I said, ‘if only he would stop'” Saheeh, Ghaayatul Maraam (277)

Chapter 7: Allaah curses the one who curses his parents.
13/17 From Abu at-Tufail who said, “Ali was asked, ‘did the Prophet (SAW) favour you with something that he did not favour for the rest of the people?’ He said, ‘the Prophet (SAW) did not favour anything for us that he did not favour for the people, except for what is in the hilt of my sword.’ Then he removed a piece of paper and written on it was, ‘Allaah curses the one who slaughters for the sake of other than Allaah. Allaah curses the one who steals the boundary posts of the land (in order to make his plot of land bigger). Allaah curses the one who curses his parents. Allaah curses the one who aids the one who does Bid’ah (Innovator).'” Saheeh, al-Mishkaat (4070)

Chapter 8: Birr is for the parents in those matters that do not involve disobedience (to Allaah)
14/18 From Abu ad-Dardaa who said, “The Messenger (SAW) enjoined me with 9 things: Do not associate anything with Allaah, even if you are cut into pieces or burned. And never leave the obligatory prayers deliberately, and the one that leaves them deliberately becomes absolved of protection. And do not drink alcohol for it is the door to all evil. And obey your parents, and if they command you to leave your worldly possessions then do so for them. And do not dispute/contend with the leader of the Muslims, even if you think you are right, and do not flee from the advancing army, even if you are destroyed and your companions flee. And spend of your property on your family. And never raise your stick against your family. And fill them with the fear of Allaah.” Saheeh, Irwaa (2026)

15/20 From Abdullaah bin Umar who said, “A man came to the Prophet (SAW) intending to go on jihaad. So he said, ‘are your parents alive?’ He said, ‘yes.’ So he said, ‘your jihaad is with them.'” Saheeh, Irwaa (1199)

Chapter 9: The one whose parents attain old age and he does not enter paradise
16/21 From Abu Hurayra, from the Prophet (SAW) that he said, “May he be disgraced and humiliated, may he be disgraced and humiliated, may he be disgraced and humiliated.” They said, “who O Messenger of Allaah?” He said, “the one whose parents attain old age, or one of them, and he enters Hellfire (by not serving them).” Saheeh, at-Ta’leeq ar-Ragheeb (3/215)

Chapter 10: Not seeking forgiveness for ones father who is mushrik
17/23 From Ibn Abbaas, about the saying of Allaah, ‘and if one of them, or both of them attain old age during your life, then do not say to them “Uff”‘ until His saying, ‘as they brought me up when I was young’ – “this was abrogated (or the meaning was restricted) by the aayah in Surah al-Baraa’, ‘it is not for the Prophet and the believers that they seek forgiveness for the mushriks, even if they be of the close relations, after it has been made clear to them that they are the Companions of Hell.'” Hasan Isnaad.

Chapter 11: Birr to the parent who is a mushrik
18/24 From Sa’d bin Abee Waqqaas who said, “four verses were revealed with regards to me in the Book of Allaah:

My mother swore that she would not eat and drink until I disassociated myself from Muhammad (SAW), So Allaah revealed. ‘and if they endeavour to make you commit shirk with me, of which you have no knowledge, then do not obey them and accompany them in this world in a good way.’ I took a sword which I liked, so I said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah give me this’ so the verse was revealed, ‘they ask you about the spoils of War’, I became sick so the Messenger of Allaah (SAW) visited me. So I said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah! I intend to divide my property, shall I give a half away (in charity)?’ He said, ‘no.’ So I said, ‘a third?’ and he remained silent. And afterwards a third was made permissible, I drank alcohol with a group of the Ansaar, and then a man amongst them struck me on my nose at a place called Lahya Jamal. So I went to the Prophet (SAW) and Allaah revealed the verse with regards to the prohibition of alcohol.” Saheeh, al-Mishkaat (3072)

Causes for Delinquency: Poverty and Disputes


Author: by Abdullah Saleh Ulwan Tr. by Dr. Muhammad Amin Tawfiq]

The causes and factors which lead to juvenile delinquency are numerous. Their corruption, ill-nature, and unpleasant circumstances are the direct result of life in a sinful society! Numerous, also, are the evil causes that affect juveniles, causing them to completely rebel against righteousness.

It is the duty of the pedagogues, those responsible for the proper upbringing of children, to develop an awareness to the causes of deviation amongst youth, while also studying and implementing remedies and protective measures in an effort to combat this corruptive phenomenon.

If the proper safeguards are not put in place, the children may soon become a generation filled with mass corruption, crime, misery and loss.

Islam, with its wise law and eternal principles, has laid down the principles and curricula for the protection of every generation from aberration, and every society from displacement and loss.

In the following, we present to you: the pedagogues, the most salient factors in juvenile delinquency, and their most effective remedies in the light of Islam in order to keep you well-informed about the proper etiquette of raising children, and to illustrate some common responsibilities which relate to this subject.

Undoubtedly, if a child is deprived of adequate food and clothing in the home, he will be forced to look for his sustenance elsewhere. While engrossed in this innocent search, he may become influenced by certain criminal elements of the society, which could result in him becoming a criminal and a menace to others.

Islam, through its just Shari’ah (Law), has laid down the foundations for combatting poverty. It has prescribed a good life for each human being. It has set up regulations guaranteeing the minimum accommodation, food and clothing for every member of the society.

It has devised a system to finally bring an end to poverty, which includes: making work available for each citizen; giving every disabled citizen a monthly salary from the treasury; legislating family compensation for every father who has a family and children; and caring for orphans, widows and senior citizens in a way which allows them to keep their human dignity, and enables them to lead the best life possible.

However, there are other regulations, which, if applied and duly implemented, would stem out causes of crime, vagabondage and loss, as well as eradicate all signs of poverty and deprivation (See our book: Social Consolidation in Islam).

One devastating factor, which may lead to a child’s aberration, is constant arguing and bickering between the parent and the child. When a child sees this phenomenon of dispute recurring, he will certainly leave this plagued family environment, searching for individuals with whom he would feel comfortable spending the majority of his time with. If these are evildoers, then he will imitate them in the same manner of deviation and perversion.

This rebellion outside the home, shadowed by the possibility of becoming involved in criminal activities, would make him a possible source of danger to the people and the society.

On the other hand, Islam with its eternal and wise principles, has even shown the man the straightforward way to choose a spouse. It also has shown the family of the woman the best way to choose a husband. This is only to establish amity, love, understanding and cooperation between the marrying couple. Consequently, adhering to these guidelines removes any possibility of senseless family disputes occurring between spouse and children.

[ Extracts from: Children Upbringing in Islam, by Abdullah Saleh Ulwan]
[Tr. by Dr. Muhammad Amin Tawfiq]

Teaching children good manners


Author: Guidelines for raising children

Just as a child should be taught ritual acts of worship, he should also be taught good habits and etiquette until they become second nature to him. The Prophet [peace be upon him ] said: “Believers who have the most perfect Iman (faith) are those who have the best manners.”

Good manners are an acquired trait that must be adopted from a young age. Of such manners are the following:

1. Teaching the child to be respectful and dutiful to his parents:

The first person from whom a child learns good manners is the father. If a child is raised in a good Islamic home, then it would be natural for him to treat his parents respectfully.

Allah says: “And your Rabb (Lord) has decreed that you should worship none but Him and be kind to parents. If one or both of them reach old age during your lifetime, never say ‘uff’ (an expression of displeasure), nor scold them, but address them politely. And humble yourself to them out of mercy and say, ‘O my Rabb (Lord,) be merciful to them for having reared me from young age.'” (Holy Qur’an, 17: 23, 24)

2. Teaching them to maintain good relations with relatives:

Sound rearing also stipulates teaching children to maintain good relations with their relatives. Allah says: ‘Worship Allah, and associate no partners with Him, and be kind to parents, next of kin, the orphans, the needy, the related neighbors, the next-door neighbors, the wayfarer and to the slaves that you own.” (Holy Qur’an, 4: 36)

The fulfillment of this Divine command can be accomplished only by sound rearing which makes them grow attached to their relatives out of obedience to Allah.

Since relatives are an extension of the family, then strengthening ties with them strengthens the whole family and it is like strengthening the whole community and this reflects an Islamic community that enjoys a cohesive structure. The Prophet said: “The believers in their reciprocal love and mercy are like a human body, when one of its organs suffer, the rest of the body is kept awake and suffers fever.”

3. Inculcating in children brotherly love:

Brotherly love and believers’ solidarity must be embedded in the children’s minds and that the believers are brothers-in-faith. For example to follow the pious predecessors, the Muhajireen and the Ansar, whose brotherly love and altruism Allah commends in His Book.

Giving a friendly gesture or a happy greeting to Muslim brothers generates friendliness in their hearts and, strengthens the love among the believers. This indeed is a fine trait, which is instructed by Allah, the Exalted. He describes the believers saying: “They are merciful to one another but harsh to the infidels.” (Holy Qur’an, 48: 29)

Allah also addressed His Messenger saying: “And were you to be harsh and hard-hearted, they would have broken away from you.” (Holy Qur’an, 3:159)

4. Good words:

Giving a good word is a type of remembrance of Allah, telling the truth, guarding one’s own tongue against slandering other people are good deeds. The best Muslim, according to the Prophet is the one from whose tongue the Muslims feel safe.

Parents should make their children aware of the gravity of abusing others with their tongue and of the fact that the tongue is a double-sided and dangerous weapon. Therefore, they should be warned in particular against abusing it.

Warning children against backbiting and slandering

Children should be taught that backbiting is speaking slanderously about an absent person. The Prophet said: “Do you know what is Gheebah (backbiting)?” They said: “Allah and His Messenger know best.” He said: “It is to attribute to your brother what he dislikes.” He was asked: “What do you think if what I say about my brother is true?” He said: “If what you attribute to him is true, then you have backbitten him, and if it is not true, then you have lied about him.”

While Nameemah (talebearing) is to circulate slanderous rumors between two persons to damage or sever the ties between them. The Prophet said: “No Nammam (talebearer) will be admitted to Jannah (Paradise).”

Deriding people in their presence by making negative facial expressions or by hand gestures while they are unaware is forbidden in Islam.

Warning them against lying

Children must be taught to tell the truth and to keep away from lying, which is the most horrible habit. The Prophet said: “There are four traits whoever possesses them is a sheer hypocrite, and he who possesses one of them, possesses a trait of hypocrisy unless he quits it. They are: when he speaks, he tells lies; and when he enters into an agreement, he acts unfaithfully; and when he promises, he breaches his promise; and when he litigates, he behaves treacherously. While the liar receives the anger of Allah on the Day of Resurrection.”

He also said: “Lying leads to Hell-Fire and truthfulness leads to Jannah.”

Parents should not take this evil habit lightly, or consider it funny when their children tell lies because later on it becomes easy for them to lie without any compunction.

Abusing others

Among the worst of manners is reviling people and swearing at them. If this bad habit is not redressed while the child is growing up, it becomes hard for him to avoid it later on.

Islam enjoins guarding the tongues. The Prophet said: “He who guarantees, what is in between his jaws (tongue), and what is in between his thighs (private parts), I guarantee Jannah for him.”

This means guarding one’s own tongue against uttering anything that displeases Allah, and guarding one’s own private parts against committing illicit acts or fornication.

Who Are Good Authors?


Bismillaah (In The Name of Allaah)

Dear Reader,

In a world full of Islaamic books and with over seventy sects of Islaam it can be very daunting when trying to find the right book to learn about Islam. The number one important thing is to look at the author. You want to buy books that are or before being translated written by well known scholars whom had the correct understanding. The second important thing is to look at the translator. Some times translators while meaning well add in their own conjecture and opinions on matters and do not make it clear that it is their own opinion not the original authors.

A third important thing to remember is that some authors of some very good books does not neccessarily mean all their books, and idea’s are good. People are subject to change at any moment. The defining moment of a person’s true character comes out when they have made a mistake while giving dawaa nd refuse to acknolwedge and retract the mistake. From that moment on it becomes difficult to discern if the things they are saying are more innacuracies, misunderstandings and/or deviated beliefs. This is very challenging for the keen seeker of knowledge as being knowledable of the deen does not make one an expert of the deen. So, you must pay attention to what the scholars consensus is on others as well as the advise they impart to the callers to Islam. In this way you may be saved from the hassle of being taught incorrect things in’shaa Allah.

My Islamic Library with books for sale. I have read and own 99.99% of these titles myself. I found much benefit in them. But please do not forget that the authors are not infallible and I do not recommend you buy all their books (ones that are not listed in the bookstore). Especially ones they have written after having made serious mistakes in their dawa.

My Online Library: Books you can read online

A list of Subjects with links on them in the order that it is beneficial to study and learn in.

Oh Allah! I entrust you with what I have read and I have studied. Oh Allah! Bring it back to me when I am in need of it. Oh Allah! You do whatever you wish, you are my availer and protector and the best of aid. Amiin!

I will be adding more and more titles in here as I have time, in’shaa Allaah. Don’t forget to save this page and come back to see the new additions.

Harun Yahya is a known deviant

Bismillaah (In The Name of Allaah)

Dear Reader,

Harun Yahya has sufi tendencies and one of the issues he promotes in his books is the sufi heretical understanding of “wahdatul wujood“, literally translated as oneness of existance, which espouses the belief that all that exists IS Allah, making no distinction between the Creator and the created; he also ascribes to Darwan’s theory of evolution (man evolved from a lower species and wans not created as Allah describes in Qur’an).

I am just forbidding from the evil and enjoing the good. I have not stated what my opinion is about him as I am nobody to state such an opinion on anyone, really. I am just sharing that he is a known devient and listing some sources to help others. I just want to make sure I warn away from him as he is a known deviant. I have already posted on The Crime of Tamyee which he admits to doing in that previous link to his press conference.  We must safeguard our religion and take care on who we learn it from so that we are not taught incorrect things.
Minhaj is what makes a person a Sufi, Salafi, Khwaraij and etc. To understand simply, minhaj is the way a person understands and defines the meanings of the Quran and Sunnah in relation to the attributes of Allaah and other defining points in Islamic theology. (If you have a better definition of it please share.)

“So the soundness of manhaj – or lack thereof – determines a persons entry into Paradise or the Fire.”

Here is some more information on what minhaj is.

Your Mother, Your Mother, Your Mother, Then Your Father

Bismillah (In The Name of Allah)

Dear Reader,

When death approaches, the close family and friends try to support and comfort the dying person through supplication as well as remembrance of Allah and His will. The loss of a loved one often has a devastating effect on the person who suffered the loss and the negative effects sometimes last for years making it very hard for life to go on for the affected person. To a parent the soul of a child is like a precious diamond in the rough entrusted by Allah as a trust.  Our beloved children are an awesome responsibility as well as a precious gift from Allah.  You can never even begin to understand the love your parent has for you until you have your own children.  Do not wait until a day arrives where you lose one or both of your loving parents to show goodness to them.  All parents must go and meet their end at sometime, so do not wait until after they have departed from the world to think of all the good that they have shown to you.

Abu Huraira reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: There are one hundred (parts of) mercy for Allah and He has sent down out of these one part of mercy upon the jinn and human beings and the insects and it is because of this (one part) that they love one another, show kindness to one another and even the beast treats its young one with affection, and Allah has reserved ninety nine parts of mercy with which He would treat His servants on the Day of Resurrection.
Saih Muslim

There is so much reward to be gained by Allah from showing goodness, thanks and patience with the parents.  Thus, kindness toward parents came between two of the most important religious duties that Islam lays on Muslims. The reward for being good and kind toward one’s parents was mentioned on several occasions by Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him), emphasizing that those who are obedient to their parents and to God also will be in the highest places in Paradise.

Also, Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) equated kindness toward parents with jihad (striving in the way or God) and often promised people that if they were kind, obedient, and close to their parents — particularly the mother (but this does not include showing animosity to those she is at odds with and aiding her in her disobedience to Allah and her husband your father) — their reward would be similar to that of someone who strives in the way of God.

Abdullah ibn Umar, a leading scholar among the Prophet’s (Peace be upon him) companions once saw a man from Yemen carrying his mother on his back and going around the Kabah in his tawaf. Rather than show any sign of complaint, the man was happy, repeating a line of poetry in which he likened himself to a camel his mother was mounting. The only difference is that a camel may be scared by something and go out of control. He would never go out of her control. He looked at Abdullah ibn Umar and asked him whether by so doing he discharged his debt to his mother. Ibn Umar said: “No. You have not even paid back one twinge of her labour pain when she gave birth to you.”

No one can deny the supreme sacrifice and care that a mother renders to her child. The mother carries him (in her womb) by enduring strain after strain. And subsequently, at the time of birth, she is suspended between life and death. All this she faces with determination as much as patience barring any regret or anger.

Prophet Mohammed (Peace be upon him) has described and explained a mother’s feelings for her child in the following hadith (his sayings):

Truly, those feelings are a blessing (Rahmah) from Allah, if it were not for these feelings, a mother would not be willing to breast-feed her child, nor would a farmer be willing to work in the fields (under the scorching heat of the sun).

A father’s sacrifice is just as big. It is the father who is the bread winner in the family; he provides money for food, clothing, shelter, education, health and other necessities for the family.

Every day, without wasting time, the father has to earn and provide—– be it by using his mental faculties, or through physical labour such as working under the scorching heat of the sun , or endangering his life by going out in the stormy seas. He goes through all these with perseverance and determination, solely for the purpose of providing the needs of the family.  The father also harbours hopes for his children similar to that of the mother, which means that his children succeed in becoming useful individuals.

Prophet Muhammad said:

It was narrated by Abu Hurairah (R) that a man came to the Prophet and asked him, ‘Who is to be close to my friendship?’ The Prophet answered:

Your mother, your mother, your mother, then your father, then the one closest to your kinship, and the one after.

This hadith clearly shows mothers are given particular gratitude and respect in regards to the kind treatment to be shown to them.  Does this mean that they are to be obeyed in matters where they are ordering you to be disobedient?

“Indeed are you not all guardians? And each of you is responsible for your flock: So the leader who is in authority over the people is a guardian, and he is responsible for his flock, and a man is guardian over the members of his house, and he is responsible for his flock, and the woman is a guardian over the members her husband’s household and his children, and she is responsible for them, and the man’s servant is a guardian over the wealth of his master and he responsible for it. Indeed, you are all guardians, and all of you are responsible for your flocks.”

Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim

As this hadith shows each parent is responsible for their flock.  And you must never forget the mother is to obey the husband and she is to carry out his halaal wishes in regards to the children.  Do not obey your mother in being disobedient to your father.  The father, the husband is the leader of his household and deserves to be treated with honour, respect and kindness.

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means.”
Quran 4:34

“But men, have a degree (of responsibility) over them (women).”
Quran 2:228

“Your Lord had decreed, that you worship none save Him, and (that you show) kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age with you, say not “Fie” unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word. And lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy, and say: My Lord! Have mercy on them both, as they did care for me when I was young.”   [Quran 17:23-24]

The recognition and respect of parents is mentioned in the Quran eleven times; in every instance, Allah reminds children to recognize and to appreciate the care and love they have received from their parents. In the following verse, Allah demands that children recognize their parents:

“We have enjoined on humankind kindness to parents.”  [Quran 29:8 and 46:15]

1.   The demand for recognizing parents is made more empathetical when Allah says in the Quran:

“And (remember) when We made a covenant with the children of Israel, (saying): worship none save Allah (only), and be good to parents…” [Quran 2:83]

2.   In Surah Al-Nisaa’ (The Women) Allah emphasizes again that children should be kind to their parents.

“And serve Allah. Ascribe nothing as partner unto Him. (Show) Kindness unto parents… ” [Quran 4:36]

3.   The same directive is repeated again In Surah Al An’Am (The Cattle), where Allah says:

“Say: Come, I will recite unto you that which your Lord has made a sacred duty for you; that you ascribe nothing as partner unto Him and that you do good to parents…” [Quran 6:151]

When was the last time you thanked your parents for all the good they did for you out of their love for you?  When was the last last time you went out of your way to care for and please your parents? Have you apologised to your parents for the hardships you have afflicted on them?  It is not easy to be a good parent we all have our errors.  Forgive your parents for their mistakes.  Would you not like Allah to forgive you of your errors?  Grant your parents seventy excuses or more, and if you cannot think of one excuse for them, then realize they may have an excuse that you are unaware of.


-Forgive your parent their mistakes and ask them to forgive you for yours

-Thank your parents for the kindness they have shown and the hardships they have taken on to care for you

-Shower your parents with halal presents they will love and enjoy

-Keep regular contact with your parents and ask if there is anything you can do for them\

-Respect your parents wishes even when they go against your own and argue with them in a way that is better by respectfully and humbly asking and pleading your case to them

-Pray for the forgiveness and guiding to the truth for your parents

-Send thank you cards, poetry, loving Islamic reminders and admiration to your parents when they achieve something they have worked hard for

And I pray that Allah blesses you to reap benefit from this post and accept this advise.  I invite you to be good to your parents and to practise Islamic Monotheism as no one, thing or deity has the right to be worshipped but Allah alone.  Allah (swt) deserves and holds all glory, honour and respect and Muhammad peace be upon him, is the last and final Messenger simply showing that which has been shown before (The Abrahamic faiths).

My mother passed away one year ago at the age of fifty one from a defective heart valve, a week before her scheduled heart valve replacement surgery. I am grateful for the opportunities Allah blessed me with, to really work hard in showing her my love and loyalty as a daughter. I will never know if it was ever enough for her, in her eyes and in her heart; that is where it truly matters. What will you do to make a stronger loving connection to your mother and mother-in-law, please let us know in the comments.

About the Author: Halimah bint David authored, illustrated, published and marketed several books on Islamic monotheism (tawhid) for kids and Sharia for adults. Halimah founded a few popular blogs at SurvivorsAreUs.WordPress.Com, HighwayToHeaven.WordPress.Com, ChristinaMacQuarrie.Wordpress.Com and is currently researching and implementing new copy writing skills.

Are You An Outstanding Muslim For Those Who are Not Your Friend?

Bismillah (In The Name Of Allah)

Dear Reader,

What is your community like?  What thoughts first enter your mind?  Do you first think of a particular person you have a hard time getting along with?  Do you think of alienation?  Do you know who is chronically ill, disabled, busy with children and ect. so they cannot often come to the Masjid?  Do you think of the segregation of sisters by who they sit and chat with during khutbah’s, and after prayer times?

You are a building block of your community and ultimately of this Ummah. There is something that YOU can do to help remedy these problems:

It is the first arrow and the fastest of them all. It is like the salt for food. It is also regarded as a kind of worship and alms-giving as mentioned in Hadith “Smiling at your brother’s face is as charity (Sadaqa)”. Sahaabah reported about the Prophet (Peace be up on him) saying that they had never seen someone smile at the other’s face more then as the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be up on him) used to do.

The Prophet Muhammad (Peace be up on him) said: “Do not ever waste your good deeds, even by meeting your brother with a frowning face.” Your smile for your brother is sadaqah.[bukhari]

This arrow is the one that lets you to be in the inner most depths of the others hearts. This arrow needs a skilful shooter. The needed skills are the hearty smile, the warm shaking of hands and the friendly welcoming to the other. Being successfully achieved, such kinds of skills are going to be rewarded, referring to the Hadith: “In greetings, the better is one who initiates greeting the other”. You will not enter Jannah until you have Imaan (firm faith) and you will not attain (complete) Imaan until you love one another. Shall I not show you something by doing which there will be love between you? Make salaam common amongst yourselves. (Sahih Muslim)

It has a strange charming affection that captivates all senses. Hence, exchanging presents and gifts in different occasions is a pleasant habit however gifts should be within one’s tolerable expenses. Prophet (Peace be up on him) told us that giving presents increases love among Muslims.
He said also: “Shaking hands removes hatred and exchanging presents enhances love and ends enmity.”

Loud voice and chattering are bad merits and worse then a donkeys braying. You have to be sweet-worded, tender in expressing yourself. Concerning this merit, The Prophet (Peace be up on him) said “The good word is a charity (is a Sadaqa).” If the good word has its own magic in winning the hearts of your enemies how powerfully it would work then with your brothers’ hearts!! Whoever guarantees me the protection of the part between his two jaws (i.e. tongue) and that which is between his thighs (i.e. private parts), I guarantee for him Jannah. (Bukhaari and Muslim) Prophet’s (Peace be up on him) said: “Nobility of manners and taciturnity are the best of manners that people are ever characterized by.”

It is to listen patiently and never interrupt the speaker, as the Prophet (Peace be up on him) never interrupted a speaker till he ended his speech. And he who fights for this merit gains others love and admiration, whilst on the contrary is the one who chatters and interrupts the other.

You have to be careful with your appearance so as to be neat, well-dressed. The Prophet (Peace be up on him) says that Allah (Saw) loves beauty to be in every thing.

Good treatment you classifies you as an obedient, beloved slave of Allah (SWT) as the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be up on him) says: “The more you are in (real) favour of others, the more you are beloved by Allah (SWT) ” as Allah (SWT) says in the Quran: ” And spend of your substance in the cause of Allah (SWT) and make not your own hands contribute to (your) destruction; but do good; for Allah (SWT) love those, who do good” (Quran 2:195) Every good deed is sadaqah (an act of charity). (Bukhaari and Muslim)Whoever provides ease for someone who is burdened with debt, Allah will provide ease for him in this world and the Aakhirah. (Sahih Muslim)

Offering money is the key for most of the closed doors that hinder you from reaching others hearts, especially in these days. Some people behave stingily as if they see the ghost of poverty waiting to attack them once they think about being generous in offering money i.e. not the behaviour of the Muslim. Sadaqah (the giving of charity) wipes out sin just as water extinguishes fire. (Tirmizi)

Keeping an eye on others behaviour is a bad merit that blocks your way to their hearts. On the contrary is to have a good opinion of them. So, try hard to give your brothers the excuse as much as you can. Prophet Muhammad (Peace be up on him)) told us that if some one hurt others then he or she would have to ask for forgiveness from the person as well as from Allah (SWT) in order to compensate the mistake. The Muslim who conceals the faults of another Muslim, Allah will conceal his faults on the Day of Qiyaamah. (Sahih Muslim)

Shaykh Muqbil ibn Haadee al-Waadi’ee said:

Boycotting a Muslim is considered to be from the major sins, the messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه و سلم said: “It is not permissible for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three days”. Yes, and he also said: “Indeed Allaah, ta`aala forgives all of his creation except a mushrik (polytheist), or a mushaahin (one who hates or has enmity with his brother), and He says “Wait for these two until they resolve their differences”.”

The messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه و سلم practiced boycotting very rarely, so it is not befitting that you boycott whoever you see has a few mistakes, for the messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم said: “The rights of the Muslim upon the Muslim are five: …” and he mentioned from amongst them: “when you meet him, then greet him [with salaam]”


In all your interactions use the best of manners and character especially in times of fitnah, disagreements and ect.

‘A’isha (radiallahu anha), the wife of Allah’s Apostle (salallaho alaihi wasallam), reported Allah’s Apostle (saw) as saying:

Kindness is not to be found in anything but that it adds to its beauty and it is not withdrawn from anything but it makes it defective.

Sahih Muslim  Book 032, Number 6274
If you loved someone or felt good feelings about them, don’t wait, just tell them at once. Regarding this, the Prophet (Peace be up on him) said: “If you felt the brotherly love of Islam towards any, you should immediately go and tell him about your feelings.” He added “It is the way relations are to be strongly indicated”. Such love is to be blessed by Allah (SWT) , if it is purely for Allah (SWT) ‘s sake, not for any other personal affairs such as seeking high position, money, fame etc. Unless this love is for Allah’s (SWT) sake, it is a fruitless kind of brotherhood then.

Moreover, Allah (SWT) says: “Friends on that Day will be enemies one to another, except Al Muttaqoon (i.e. those who have strong faith and deeds).” (Quran 43:67) I enjoin upon you truthfulness for indeed truthfulness guides towards virtue, and virtue certainly leads to Jannah. (Bukhaari and Muslim)

It is the art of being social. Here, a kind of misconception could exist between sociability and hypocrisy. Could you differentiate between the two meanings?
The Prophet (peace be upon him)’s wife, Aisha said “A man came to visit us, but to my surprise, once the Prophet (peace be upon him) saw him, he said “O…that ill- mannered man”, but the Prophet (peace be upon him) changed completely once he sat with him. He welcomed the man warmly, smiling in his face. When the man left, I asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) about what had surprised me; how he considered this man as being bad, and how he talked to him in such warmth? The Prophet (peace be upon him) answered “Have you ever seen me behaving as a hypocrite?” He added “In the Day of Judgement, the worst degrees are for those whom people deserted for being mistreated by them.”
Al Qurtubi differentiates between hypocrisy and sociability, regarding sociability as a desirable legal behaviour, saying that sociability means sacrificing the worldly affairs for the sake of improving either life on earth or religion, or so as to improve both, while hypocrisy aims at sacrificing religion for the sake of the worldly affairs.
Hence, being sociable for ill-mannered people is aiming to achieve two purposes:
Firstly, to avoid being mistreated by them.
Secondly, being good to them could be guidance for them to step the right way. Compliments should be within worldly affairs only, never in religious affairs, otherwise, it will be a matter of hypocrisy.
To be sociable, means to be tender, smiling, praising to the other, intending in the meantime a legal benefit. The Prophet (peace be upon him) says “Being sociable, is as alms-giving. ” Ibn Battal says also “Sociability is an ethic of the believers; it is to show open-mindedness in treating others and to delicately speak to them. Both are important elements in seeking reasons for intimacy”

The Muslim who visits his sick Muslim brother in the morning, seventy thousand angels pray for his forgiveness until the evening, and if he visits him in the evening, then seventy thousand angels pray for his forgiveness until the morning. And he will be granted a mansion (for it) in Jannah.  (Tirmizi)

Rasulullah [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] was asked about the deeds which lead most of the people into Jannah. He replied, ‘The fear of Allah and good manners.'(Tirmidthi)

Family ties are suspended from the Arsh (Throne of Allah). It proclaims: Whoever upholds me, may Allah keep good relations with him and whoever severs me, may Allah sever His relation (of mercy) from him. (Bukhaari and Muslim)

May Allah allow us to benefit from this advise and knowledge. Amin!

Have any of these ideas motivated you and inspired you to make a real personal difference in your heart,please let us know in the comments.

About the Author: Halimah bint David authored, illustrated, published and marketed several books on Islamic monotheism (tawhid) for kids and Sharia for adults. Halimah founded a few popular blogs at SurvivorsAreUs.WordPress.Com, HighwayToHeaven.WordPress.Com, ChristinaMacQuarrie.Wordpress.Com and is currently researching and implementing new copy writing skills.


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